Comments for To Cheat or Not? http://tocheatornot.wordpress.com Just another WordPress.com weblog Sat, 24 May 2008 16:41:59 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on I already know the answer by Sally http://tocheatornot.wordpress.com/2008/04/26/i-already-know-the-answer/#comment-29 Sally Sat, 24 May 2008 16:41:59 +0000 http://tocheatornot.wordpress.com/?p=4#comment-29 Before thinking of cheating on your wife please ask yourself if you are still the exciting, passionate man your wife first met and fell in love with. I will bet the answer is no, so if your wife is no longer the exciting, passionate woman you fell in love with then it would be better for you both to turn your energy into reviving your marriage, to finding that passion that made you both fall in love and marry in the first place. This would be a positive step and will not lead you to the guilt and pain that an affair WILL cause. Think of the other side of the coin, if you did cheat and eventually left your wife how long would it be before this new woman became less passionate and exciting and someone else would attract your eye? Before thinking of cheating on your wife please ask yourself if you are still the exciting, passionate man your wife first met and fell in love with. I will bet the answer is no, so if your wife is no longer the exciting, passionate woman you fell in love with then it would be better for you both to turn your energy into reviving your marriage, to finding that passion that made you both fall in love and marry in the first place. This would be a positive step and will not lead you to the guilt and pain that an affair WILL cause.

Think of the other side of the coin, if you did cheat and eventually left your wife how long would it be before this new woman became less passionate and exciting and someone else would attract your eye?

]]> Comment on The question … by I’m going to tell her « To Cheat or Not? http://tocheatornot.wordpress.com/2008/04/25/the-question/#comment-21 I’m going to tell her « To Cheat or Not? Thu, 08 May 2008 21:42:46 +0000 #comment-21 [...] PS. The story begins here. [...] [...] PS. The story begins here. [...]

]]> Comment on Why do men cheat? by wonderingchristing http://tocheatornot.wordpress.com/2008/04/29/why-do-men-cheat/#comment-12 wonderingchristing Sun, 04 May 2008 22:54:04 +0000 http://tocheatornot.wordpress.com/?p=6#comment-12 You have been fortunate to have found your love at first sight. Shared many years and happy memories. Is it worth it to upset the balance now? Do you really want to open a can of worms by confessing your feelings to Diane? I do not know you or her so I cannot judge how she will react. Suggestion would be for you to make some serious effort to rekindle the passion and give your family a true second chance. Sometimes maybe you just need to start appreciating the people and things you already have around you. The lure of the new and unknown might not always have the best outcome. Maybe I am a coward. Maybe I am jaded from the game. However, if I were you, I won't jeopardize what I have. How would you feel if the role was reversed and your wife does what you are contemplating? Do you really want to put her and your family through all the potential mess? Is it worth it? Sometimes, it is better to just remain friends. Perhaps that is what Diane wants from you. Perhaps. I don't know. I just watched The Bucket List and Morgan Feeman's character in the movie as he talked about his wife struck a chord. Go on your own journey to discover what you want. Perhaps like him, you just got married too early and never had a chance to find out what you want. Find out for yourself if the intensity of the feelings you have for another is love or lust. Remember...it is possible to love more than one person. You just got to decide for yourself, which of the one you love is the one you want to wake up to every morning. Good luck! You have been fortunate to have found your love at first sight. Shared many years and happy memories. Is it worth it to upset the balance now? Do you really want to open a can of worms by confessing your feelings to Diane? I do not know you or her so I cannot judge how she will react. Suggestion would be for you to make some serious effort to rekindle the passion and give your family a true second chance. Sometimes maybe you just need to start appreciating the people and things you already have around you. The lure of the new and unknown might not always have the best outcome.
Maybe I am a coward. Maybe I am jaded from the game. However, if I were you, I won’t jeopardize what I have. How would you feel if the role was reversed and your wife does what you are contemplating? Do you really want to put her and your family through all the potential mess? Is it worth it? Sometimes, it is better to just remain friends. Perhaps that is what Diane wants from you. Perhaps. I don’t know.
I just watched The Bucket List and Morgan Feeman’s character in the movie as he talked about his wife struck a chord. Go on your own journey to discover what you want. Perhaps like him, you just got married too early and never had a chance to find out what you want. Find out for yourself if the intensity of the feelings you have for another is love or lust. Remember…it is possible to love more than one person. You just got to decide for yourself, which of the one you love is the one you want to wake up to every morning. Good luck!

]]> Comment on About Me by I already know the answer « To Cheat or Not? http://tocheatornot.wordpress.com/about/#comment-10 I already know the answer « To Cheat or Not? Sun, 04 May 2008 19:31:59 +0000 #comment-10 [...] the answer to the question, “should I cheat on my wife?” If you’ve looked at my About Me page, then you know that I’m a Christian. I should probably elaborate on that, however, since [...] [...] the answer to the question, “should I cheat on my wife?” If you’ve looked at my About Me page, then you know that I’m a Christian. I should probably elaborate on that, however, since [...]

]]> Comment on Satan is an asshole by Retrospective illumination and über blessings « To Cheat or Not? http://tocheatornot.wordpress.com/2008/05/01/satan-is-an-asshole/#comment-9 Retrospective illumination and über blessings « To Cheat or Not? Sun, 04 May 2008 19:22:15 +0000 http://tocheatornot.wordpress.com/?p=9#comment-9 [...] illumination and über blessings I said in a previous post that “I wonder sometimes how I developed such a strong affection for Diane in such a short [...] [...] illumination and über blessings I said in a previous post that “I wonder sometimes how I developed such a strong affection for Diane in such a short [...]

]]> Comment on I already know the answer by tocheatornot http://tocheatornot.wordpress.com/2008/04/26/i-already-know-the-answer/#comment-3 tocheatornot Sun, 27 Apr 2008 00:02:23 +0000 http://tocheatornot.wordpress.com/?p=4#comment-3 Hi Mike, Thanks for the comment and the poem. I can relate to the fact that these thoughts pervade your passive mind and it seems I am constantly pondering the pros and cons. I'll blog a bit about that in the near future. I'm glad you have worked your situation through and your marriage is reaping the benefits! Hi Mike,

Thanks for the comment and the poem. I can relate to the fact that these thoughts pervade your passive mind and it seems I am constantly pondering the pros and cons. I’ll blog a bit about that in the near future.

I’m glad you have worked your situation through and your marriage is reaping the benefits!

]]> Comment on I already know the answer by versical http://tocheatornot.wordpress.com/2008/04/26/i-already-know-the-answer/#comment-2 versical Sat, 26 Apr 2008 20:13:45 +0000 http://tocheatornot.wordpress.com/?p=4#comment-2 Hi,I know your feeling very well,having had these thoughts and even planning in my head who I would capture.Another problem is porn sites which flash their adverts at you,daring you to look.I was an only child and used to hide in my own little world,where I could fantasise to my hearts content.I finally had some Christian counselling which got rid of a lot of poison.Now my wife and I have a much equal and harmonious relationship,but I can still get lured.As you probably realise,the devil wants to destroy you and yours,he hates you because you dared to choose Christ.It's him you should be banishing every time these thoughts arrive,you've kicked your old landlord out and he keeps trying to get back in.I wrote a poem about it and I'll end with it.God Bless,Mike. They say the grass is greener Upon the other side And there's an urge to prove it From which you cannot hide Dreams of fun and eden Pervade your passive mind Egged on by the devil Who can be very kind. But if you stop to ponder About the pros and cons Then there could be calamity When all your peace is gone You've shattered your relationships With those both near and dear Surely God is watching you Holding back His tears. Hi,I know your feeling very well,having had these thoughts and even planning in my head who I would capture.Another problem is porn sites which flash their adverts at you,daring you to look.I was an only child and used to hide in my own little world,where I could fantasise to my hearts content.I finally had some Christian counselling which got rid of a lot of poison.Now my wife and I have a much equal and harmonious relationship,but I can still get lured.As you probably realise,the devil wants to destroy you and yours,he hates you because you dared to choose Christ.It’s him you should be banishing every time these thoughts arrive,you’ve kicked your old landlord out and he keeps trying to get back in.I wrote a poem about it and I’ll end with it.God Bless,Mike.

They say the grass is greener
Upon the other side
And there’s an urge to prove it
From which you cannot hide
Dreams of fun and eden
Pervade your passive mind
Egged on by the devil
Who can be very kind.

But if you stop to ponder
About the pros and cons
Then there could be calamity
When all your peace is gone
You’ve shattered your relationships
With those both near and dear
Surely God is watching you
Holding back His tears.

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